Lately I'm thinking... I'm a little bit easier with the Sandwich Generation thing: Mom is doing all right where she is, even if it is a nursing home. She needs nursing! And my sister Lynn stays on top of any changes or special needs. If I let it get to me, her life is sad, sad, sad; but I fight that feeling, because Mom doesn't think it's so sad. She does spend a lot of time sleeping, from both boredom and weakness. She doesn't have the get-up-and-go, never has, of the 101-year-old woman who daily shoves her walker around the entire concourse, speaking to everyone. Though Mom was really, really cheered up to see all 3 daughters at once, to keep her in that revved-up state would require nothing less than our continual presence -- our continual, sleep-in presence.
This is really interesting... In a few days, the whole airline scam is going to get my full attention here. I've been flying for 40 years, and it's like knowing what a REAL tomato tastes like. I remember when you weren't forced into such close and uncomfortable physical contact with your neighbors to either side, front and rear. And a transportation employee would never have dared to "pat down" a respectable matron. R-E-S-P-E-C-T: give-a-little, give-a-little!
Currently reading... I brought home a couple of thick books on the intersection of science and religion. Should be very interesting, but may take me a long, long time to get through.
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Where can I get a bonefish martini around here? I sometimes think we are kinder to animals than people when they get very old or incapacitated and there's no hope of getting better. With animals, sometimes we say, okay they lived a good life and now it's time to say goodbye, and we enable a peaceful goodbye. With people, we make them hang around and hang around, no matter what kind of shape they're in, physical or mental. I'm not saying your mom is at that point, but I guess I've watched too many people (hell, ONE is too many) I love be there...
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